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 Another Butler ‘air castle’, with some half-truths, helps account for a story involving an illegitimate Butler baby. At a time when no-one could conclusively prove their parentage, when abstinence was the only effective contraception, and it was common for wealthy men to have illegitimate children, it was easy to believe that parentage was not always what it seemed.((Concerns about 'lost' children were part of the popular culture, tapped as a source of comic/dramatic inspiration by Gilbert & Sullivan, Oscar Wilde etc.)) Usually these beliefs coalesced around a powerful, and hitherto unacknowledged, father. One example is Sir John Conway, an equerry to (later Queen) Victoria’s father and dominating influence during Victoria's childhood. Victoria banished him from the court when she ascended the throne. One explanation for Conroy's bullying of Victoria is that he  believed (against all evidence) that his wife was Victoria's half-sister, an illegitimate child of her father. The eminent historian A.N. Wilson comments that it is unknown if Sir John’s wife shared – or even knew about – her husband’s belief in her royal parentage.((A.N. Wilson, //Victoria. A Life//, London: Atlantic Books, 2014, pp.34-35))   Another Butler ‘air castle’, with some half-truths, helps account for a story involving an illegitimate Butler baby. At a time when no-one could conclusively prove their parentage, when abstinence was the only effective contraception, and it was common for wealthy men to have illegitimate children, it was easy to believe that parentage was not always what it seemed.((Concerns about 'lost' children were part of the popular culture, tapped as a source of comic/dramatic inspiration by Gilbert & Sullivan, Oscar Wilde etc.)) Usually these beliefs coalesced around a powerful, and hitherto unacknowledged, father. One example is Sir John Conway, an equerry to (later Queen) Victoria’s father and dominating influence during Victoria's childhood. Victoria banished him from the court when she ascended the throne. One explanation for Conroy's bullying of Victoria is that he  believed (against all evidence) that his wife was Victoria's half-sister, an illegitimate child of her father. The eminent historian A.N. Wilson comments that it is unknown if Sir John’s wife shared – or even knew about – her husband’s belief in her royal parentage.((A.N. Wilson, //Victoria. A Life//, London: Atlantic Books, 2014, pp.34-35))  
  
-The Murray-Prior/Butler 'lost child' story begins with the above Andrew M-P's son, [[Andrew Redmond Murray-Prior]] (1786-1860), having an affair with his distant cousin Lady Sarah Butler (c.1790-1838). This is possible: they were both in their early twenties and unmarried at the time.   Robert M-P recorded((Robert Murray-Prior, The Blood Royal of the Murray-Priors, written 1901-05, NLA.)) that Lady Sarah became pregnant, but was forbidden to marry Andrew because her parents disliked him (as likely, as a younger son, he was not much of a catch for a Butler lady). When Lady Sarah's baby was born in April 1811, her parents had the baby whisked away to be raised by foster parents. Despite efforts, neither parent was ever able to discover their baby’s given name or whereabouts. Lady Sarah was ‘distraught for some years’, though in October 1812 she married another relative, the Hon. Charles Harward Butler-Clarke. It is feasible that this marriage was a strategic one to contain the scandal within the family. Such an action would be especially likely if the birth had been a difficult one, making it obvious to a bridegroom that Lady Sarah, far from being a virgin, had already given birth. Aristocratic women tended to be free to have affairs with suitable men, with resulting illegitimate children, but there was considerable anxiety that they first produce a legitimate ‘heir and a spare’.((The phrase was first used by Consuelo Vanderbilt (1877 –1964) who was forced into marriage with the Duke of Marlborough, see https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Consuelo_Vanderbilt and Julie Ferry, //The Transatlantic Marriage Bureau//, Aurum Press, 2017.))  Certainly the Hon. Charles was amendable to a bargain and so eager for advancement that, to try to secure an inheritance, he later added a relative’s surname to his, becoming the Hon. Charles Harward Butler-Clarke-Southwell-Wandesforde: yes, really! +The Murray-Prior/Butler 'lost child' story begins with the above Andrew M-P's son, [[Andrew Redmond Murray-Prior]] (1786-1860), having an affair with his distant cousin Lady Sarah Butler (c.1790-1838). This is possible: they were both in their early twenties and unmarried at the time.   Robert M-P recorded((Robert Murray-Prior, The Blood Royal of the Murray-Priors, written 1901-05, NLA.)) that Lady Sarah became pregnant, but was forbidden to marry Andrew because her parents disliked him (as likely, as a younger son, he was not much of a catch for a Butler lady). When Lady Sarah's baby was born in April 1811((My Heritage site claims, without citing any evidence, that the birth year was 1812)), her parents had the baby whisked away to be raised by foster parents. Despite efforts, neither parent was ever able to discover their baby’s given name or whereabouts. Lady Sarah was ‘distraught for some years’, though in October 1812 she married another relative, the Hon. Charles Harward Butler-Clarke. It is feasible that this marriage was a strategic one to contain the scandal within the family. Such an action would be especially likely if the birth had been a difficult one, making it obvious to a bridegroom that Lady Sarah, far from being a virgin, had already given birth. Aristocratic women tended to be free to have affairs with suitable men, with resulting illegitimate children, but there was considerable anxiety that they first produce a legitimate ‘heir and a spare’.((The phrase was first used by Consuelo Vanderbilt (1877 –1964) who was forced into marriage with the Duke of Marlborough, see https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Consuelo_Vanderbilt and Julie Ferry, //The Transatlantic Marriage Bureau//, Aurum Press, 2017.))  Certainly the Hon. Charles was amendable to a bargain and so eager for advancement that, to try to secure an inheritance, he later added a relative’s surname to his, becoming the Hon. Charles Harward Butler-Clarke-Southwell-Wandesforde: yes, really! 
  
 Robert M-P related how the baby, the granddaughter of an Earl and daughter of one of the wealthiest families in Ireland, was named Elizabeth and given the surname of Marks. She reputedly came to NSW in 1836 to work for the [[http://adb.anu.edu.au/biography/innes-archibald-clunes-2261|Innes]] family at Lake Macquarie. On 4 July 1836, she married a fellow employee, Alexander Cameron: this marriage in the Church of England at Port Macquarie is listed in the BDM. Alexander Cameron later enlisted TLM-P’s help in getting Elizabeth’s parentage recognised, but all the younger generation of Butlers did was to indicate their regret and acknowledge the birth. \\ Robert M-P related how the baby, the granddaughter of an Earl and daughter of one of the wealthiest families in Ireland, was named Elizabeth and given the surname of Marks. She reputedly came to NSW in 1836 to work for the [[http://adb.anu.edu.au/biography/innes-archibald-clunes-2261|Innes]] family at Lake Macquarie. On 4 July 1836, she married a fellow employee, Alexander Cameron: this marriage in the Church of England at Port Macquarie is listed in the BDM. Alexander Cameron later enlisted TLM-P’s help in getting Elizabeth’s parentage recognised, but all the younger generation of Butlers did was to indicate their regret and acknowledge the birth. \\
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